I have found that clients can have difficulty in placing their own needs ahead of the needs of the business, or ahead of the needs of their families. Does this serve their families, their businesses, their selves?
Think about this one for a moment or two... or more.
Does neglecting self serve others around us? Our families, staff, community, friends?
Before you come to your final conclusion take a moment... with a pen and paper and answer these questions: Some of them may seem extremely similar, or the same but humour me… you might be surprised at how subtle differences can reveal things.
- What happens when you neglect your own needs?
- What happens to you when you neglect your own needs?
- What happens around you when you neglect your own needs?
- What happens to your family when you neglect your own needs?
- What happens to your colleagues/staff/team when you neglect your own needs?
- How do you feel when you neglect your own needs?
- How do you behave when you neglect your own needs?
- How do you think when you neglect your own needs?
- What do you sound like when you neglect your own needs?
- What happens to you when you place the needs of your family ahead of your own?
- How effective are you in the roles you play at work, when you neglect your own needs?
- How effective are you in the roles you play at home/in your family?
- How loving, kind and considerate are you to those around you when you neglect your own needs?
I'd love to write a really concise conclusion to this, wrapping up everything neatly for you in a beautiful little package... but I don't need to. Take a look at the writing you've just done- there lies your answers.
One thing I do "Prescribe" is that you make a decision right now (assuming you're reading this AFTER you've written down your answers of course)- make a decision regarding a change that you would like to make as a result of seeing what you've written down. Your decision could be something like:
I decide to place a priority on meeting my own needs as an individual so that I may better serve the needs of those I love.
Or it could be something completely different, whatever your decision is take that decision and write it out neatly and place it somewhere that you'll see it every morning and every night- to focus your conscious and sub-conscious mind onto integrating that decision into your thoughts, words and deeds.
The hard work is remembering and disciplining yourself to look at this decision morning and night until it's integrated into who you are- until you've integrated it into your psyche as a new modus operandi.
Sit back and enjoy the benefits of making you into a more loving beautiful person than ever before- just by noticing the effects of neglecting your own needs you've made a fundamental positive change! Well done you!!
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